Somewhere out there, a girl is breaking up with her boyfriend. And once the realization of what she’s done sets in, there’s only one question on her mind: “Should I cut my hair short?”

You may think we’re joking, but Hairstylist’s Honor, every time I’ve heard a girl talk about how she wants to cut off all her hair, it’s always after a breakup.

That fascinating tidbit aside, there are some very important things to consider if you’re thinking of making the switch from long hair to short hair.

In this article, we’re going to go over everything from face shape, hair texture, to how to pick the right stylist before you give yourself the Big Chop.

A note before continuing

I take full responsibility for the opinions expressed in this article. Even though they are facts
I take full responsibility for the opinions expressed in this article. Even though they are facts

In this article, I share some of my personal experiences as a stylist.

I’ve spoken to tens of thousands of women over the years about their hair, and I’ve noticed some interesting similarities.

I believe that short hair suits some people better than others. But even if you have an amazing hairdresser, it doesn’t mean that cutting your hair short is right for you.

But no matter what I say, don’t let me (or anyone else) talk you out of getting your hair cut short!

Why very long hair is attractive: a scientific explanation

It's hard to resist the appeal of long hair. Unless..
It’s hard to resist the appeal of long hair. Unless..

Before we decide whether or not you should cut off all your hair, we need to take a look at why long hair is the default choice.

Evolutionarily speaking, long hair is an attraction trigger for males. It signifies fertility.

In fact, there is a direct link between fertility and hair length. During the first phases of hair growth, the hair shaft and follicle are fed by a network of blood vessels.

This blood supplies the shaft with nutrients, one of them being anti-Mullerian hormone (AMH). This hormone just happens to be a fertility marker, with higher levels being positively correlated with a woman’s ability to get pregnant from ages 30-44.

Based on this fact, one could make the argument that human males have evolved to be biologically wired to seek out fertile females, as evidenced by the health of their hair.

Have you ever seen an animal (human or otherwise), that was experiencing hair loss or severe matting? It probably didn’t stop to think about whether or not its face shape suited short hair. It was probably just unhealthy.

The link between short hair and heartbreak

Celebrity Breakup Haircuts - I would watch that show
Celebrity Breakup Haircuts – I would watch that show

This is purely anecdotal, but in over a decade of being a professional hairstylist, most women who cut off all their hair have done so immediately after a break up with a long term partner.

I’ve spoken to tens of thousands of women over my career. And it’s the same every time.

I believe the reason for this is that because after a breakup, we naturally want a little space. We don’t want to jump right into another one.

Maybe subconsciously, women cut off all their hair to signal to men that they are not available. Perhaps this spontaneous short haircut is a woman’s way of trying to make herself invisible to the opposite sex.

It’s possible I’m overthinking it, but after hearing the connection so many times from so many different women, you begin to wonder.

The link between short hair and aging

This lady with short hair definitely wants to talk to the manager
This lady with short hair definitely wants to talk to the manager

When we’re young, our hair grows fast. Also when we’re young, our hair will be thicker than it will ever be for the rest of our lives. We take this for granted.

As we age, our hair begins to grow slower.

Thick hair becomes thinner, tight curls get looser, and our hair color begins to fade.

To further complicate things, women begin wearing longer hair less frequently as they get older.

Let’s face it: long hair is a pain in the butt. It gets in your face, clogs your shower drain, and your styling routine takes way longer.

Short hair just seems so much easier.

But usually, people don’t jump from having very long hair to a short haircut. They go in baby steps.

Maybe when you were a teenager, you hair down to the middle of your back or your butt. Then as you got older, you cut it to shoulder length.

Then you think about a bob, then a pixie cut, and before you know it you’re one of those 73 year old ladies who use 2 cans of hair spray per week to maintain the same hairstyle they’ve had for 30 years.

Why do you want to cut your hair short?

If you’re still wondering, “Should I cut my hair short?” and have read this far, you can probably tell I am a biased author.

It’s not that I don’t like short hair on women. I think it looks great sometimes. And there are some faces that even suit short hair, arguably more than long hair.

But here’s the thing: if you’re asking yourself the question, “Should I cut my hair short?” then it’s probably going to be a bigger change than just cutting a few more inches off.

And when I talk to most of my clients about their choice to keep their hair short, most of them regret cutting their long hair (regardless of whether or not they have the perfect face shape).

Will you regret cutting your long hair?

Either short or long hair, you can't have both. Unless you have clip ins...
Either short or long hair, you can’t have both. Unless you have clip ins…

I’m going to tell you right now: if you wear your hair long, you will regret giving yourself short hair.

It may not be the day you go to the salon. It may not be a week later, or even a month.

But a few months later, you’ll see a picture of yourself and how you used to look with long hair. You’ll see how much more feminine you look and wish you had your hair back.

And look, this is not me trying to convince you because I am bored and feel like writing my opinion. What I just described to you is pretty much the exact experience I’ve heard from my clients for almost 12 years.

Even if your hair grows quickly, growing your hair back to its previous length is going to take time.

Are you prepared to go through the “ugly phase” of grown-out short hair?

Miley has apparently seen something frightening
Miley has apparently seen something frightening

Growing your hair is a pain in the butt, especially if you have fine hair.

But what’s even worse is trying to grow short hair back to long hair.

You end up getting to a point where the hair is kind of in an “in between” phase, where it’s not quite short enough to look crisp and it’s not quite long enough to look right.

This is mainly a problem for people with thick hair or a round face shape, so keep it in mind if you’re planning to cut your hair short anyway.

Having short hair makes you look fatter

They're both models and photoshopped, so of course their short hair looks great
They’re both models and photoshopped, so of course their short hair looks great

If you’re asking yourself, “Should I cut my hair short,” then this section might make you reconsider.

Now, your nutritional choices are up to you – but if you have the face shape of a basketball, well… you know.

In my time in the beauty industry, I’ve seen a lot of girls with thin hair. Most girls are insecure about their hair in general, but the ones who have low hair density usually take it the worst.

The reason I bring this up is because every single time I put hair extensions on one of these girls, they look like they’ve instantly lost 10 lbs.

Having long straight hair creates a similar optical illusion as vertical stripes on clothing: they make you look thinner.

The difference is marginal – not as much as actually losing weight, let’s say. But it makes a difference.

What are the benefits of having short hair?

Is that short hair McDonalds? Cuz this girl looks like she's lovin it
Is that short hair McDonalds? Cuz this girl looks like she’s lovin it

If you’ve managed to get this far, then I haven’t scared you off of your quest for short hair.

And look, there are DEFINITELY some major benefits to keeping your hair short.

While it won’t change your hair’s texture, a short cut is faster, easier, and less annoying to deal with on a daily basis.

In fact, having your hair cut is also positively associated with higher income and higher overall life satisfaction!

(Okay, we made that last one up. But the rest of these are true.)

Benefit 1 – Keeping your hair short is SO much easier

Doesn't get much easier than that!
Doesn’t get much easier than that!

Are you ever jealous of how easy it seems for guys to take care of their hair, even if it’s really thick or curly?

Or how easy it is for them to style it before a night out?

Well one of the reasons it’s so easy for them is because guys usually keep their hair short.

When you have short hair, “washing your hair” will take you literally 1 minute in the shower.

And that fancy $200 blow dryer you bought? Looks like you won’t be getting as much use out of that as you thought.

Benefit 2 – You’ll lighten up a little bit

You know what they say about girls with short hair...
You know what they say about girls with short hair…

Over the years, I’ve noticed something very interesting about girls with short hair: they are more easygoing.

I don’t think this is a conscious choice, either. It’s not like switching to a short hairstyle magically makes you a more friendly person in and of itself.

I haven’t confirmed this, but I think what’s happening is that women are always super-conscious of their hair. And it’s this removal of the hyper-awareness that allows them to relax once they give themselves the Big Chop.

Benefit 3 – You’ll save money on all of your hair stuff

Less hair = less $$ spent on expensive hair stuff
Less hair = less $$ spent on expensive hair stuff

The longer your hair is, the more seriously you tend to take it. This is especially the case with fine hair, but it goes for thick hair too.

Chances are your motivation to cut your hair short wasn’t to save money on shampoo, but if you are spoiled like us and like the good stuff (John Freida, looking at you), then it definitely makes an impact.

Just imagine how much bald men save on shampoo!

Final Thoughts

As someone who talks to people all day about their hair, I know how much of a big decision cutting off all your hair can be.

Before cutting long hair short, take into consideration things like your hair texture, preferred method of styling, and whether or not you’re prepared for regular trims (you do have a good stylist, don’t you?).

“Should I cut my hair short?” is a question you shouldn’t ask lightly. But it is a question that many feel compelled to ask.

And it’s one of those things where once you let the thought run free, it’s hard to control it again unless you act on it.

So, like a parent knowing his child is going to smoke some funny stuff at college, I too will let you go and make all your wrong decisions without interfering.

Good luck!

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